GUEST WRITER: GHIZLANE RADI

This month's guest writer is the amazing Ghizlane from GETAFUCKINGBRAIN and the article is about a letter a mother wrote for her daughter (and I personally love it!). Thanks again Ghizlane =)

My dearest Norah,

If I was a man I wouldn't be standing where I am, I'd be in bed with a woman as beautiful as me. If I was a child I wouldn't be so frustrated, I'd be playing carelessly with a doll as beautiful as me.

But I'm not a child nor a man, I am a lady. And as a lady, it is necessary for me to go through this moment every morning ; to stand in front of my closet and hesitate infinitely whether today will be a casual day or a classy one, whether I should wear the blue shirt or the black dress. But if there's one thing I'm sure of, it's that today and every day 'till the end of days, I must look my best.

Not to get the attention, I can get attention even in a trash bag. But I enjoy every minute of the pain heels cause me, I like every second of the diet I'm on, I love every moment I check my makeup on, I adore every time I look at a mirror and I feel an incredible satisfaction. The satisfaction of feeling beautiful. The same satisfaction I get when a woman asks me where I bought my shoes from.

And it's not about impressing those women or even men, it's not about showing off my money or style. It's about being exactly what I wanna be: beautiful, which not only increases my confidence but also expresses my very unique identity.

Whether you would like to admit it or not, your appearance is part of your identity. People do not remember you for who you really are but for what you look like. You'll never hear someone asking you “Do you know who that smart, independent woman is?” but you will hear people asking “Do you know who that blonde woman in a red dress with the diamond necklace is?” all the time. And I want you to be that blonde woman in a red dress with the diamond necklace -although I wouldn't recommend diamonds before your thirties.

If I was a man I wouldn't be standing where I am, I'd be in bed with a woman as beautiful as me. If I was a child I wouldn't be so frustrated, I'd be playing carelessly with a doll as beautiful as me.

But I'm not a man nor child. I'm a lady, and so are you. And as a lady I feel the need to tell you this, my dear daughter. You can pretend not to care what people think about you but I know you do. We all do. We live with the people, as dumb as they can be, as wrong as they can be, we live with them and we will die with them. And people will always pay attention to your appearance, therefore do not neglect it.

But I want you to keep in mind that you are not your clothes, you are not your jewelries, this is what people see in you but it's not what you truly are. Never forget that there will always be people who know who you really are and will love you for it, like me.

I will always love you no

 matter what you put on,

Your mother.